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Getting the Ball Rolling

You're relaxed and positive, and excited to see your date. Now what do you do and say when you do see them? We're going to talk about how to prepare for that inevitable brain fart that comes and wipes all intelligible conversation from your mind. Having three specific things you're interested in learning about your date will help you sail through that initial shock of the first encounter. Try not to present them all in a row and with the characteristics of an interrogation. Think about how you want them to feel comfortable, special, and interesting by inviting them to reveal their unique, positive attributes.  Also have three specific details or stories you'd like to share with them about yourself. My only advice would be to avoid downer information or perspectives that could seem argumentative. We don't want to shut your date out just let them in on some quirky, yet positive, lesser known aspects of your personality.

Your best bet to kick off the before mentioned conversation after the “Hey!” would be a genuine compliment on their appearance. Especially after all the preparation I'm sure you've both put yourselves through, I bet you'd both appreciate some attention to be paid. That is before you transition into small talk, which has some dos and don'ts of its own. One small talk intro that you're going to want to avoid is the ever popular, “How are you?” Can I say Blah-bland-boring- trite'sville? This question is either a complete waste of time or an invitation to T.M.I., you can do better. Also don't ask why they were late if they were, or how you look. Both of these come off as sounding a little too self-involved for the first five minutes of talking to someone. Oh, and don't ask to smoke that soon either, it is a huge nervousness red flag, and it is a big turn off to a lot of people out there. So feel out the territory way before you decide to light up.

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