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Getting in the Zone

The zone is what we are going to call the feeling when you are completely comfortable with someone, and the real, charming, intuitive, and profound you shines through brilliantly. It seems impossible to achieve such a thing on a first date, but it isn't. And that is what I want you to do, to be your true self for your date. It isn't necessarily easy, but it is simple.

First of all, I want to make clear that there is a way to let the true you shine through without allowing yourself to be completely vulnerable to everything that comes your way. Make those protective barriers a tad porous and portable. Being completely open to someone right away is a gamble that will beat you down over time. There is a happy medium.

There is another type of wall that can pop up if you aren't careful, and that is the stress wall. You're frazzled, distracted, and not giving your date the real you. This happens all the time, at work, with friends, we turn into our stressed out selves that are generally not as genuine as our real selves. To avoid this, know your stress history, and know that you have the power to shape your present. Your history would be how your family functioned in stressful situations and how you adapted that behavior into your own. Number one culprit of stress walls...procrastination and negativity.

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